'OK. Here are a couple of my thoughts. When you say, "I'm 32, married, educated and employed," I do not think to myself, wow, that person sounds happy. I think, wow, that sounds dull. There is no joy in the sentence. It sounds, frankly, like depression. It sounds like the airless, pleasureless realm of anhedonia.
I hear sadness. I hear a silenced self. I wonder who that silenced person is. It may be an athlete. It may be an artist. Perhaps there is some striving, messy, error-prone genius in you that is not being heard. Perhaps this genius is angry at you because she's not being heard.
You say, "On the surface, everything looks great."
A lovely surface is a tragedy. If there is no ugliness on the surface, the the ugliness must be underneath, eating away at us. There is always ugliness. It's got to be somewhere.
Here's the other thing. You say that you're OK feeling like there might be a thousand tiny reasons that all combine to make you depressed. Likewise, a person who is relatively happy may have a thousand tiny sources of happiness. Throughout the day, a person has moments of pleasure. You learn to have these things that get you through. Maybe it is a raisin bran muffin bought from the sliding window of Specialties at Montgomery and Market streets in San Francisco. It tastes good, doesn't it? Maybe it is the heat on your chilly hands of a medium-size paper cup of drip coffee bought with the muffin and carried into the street. Maybe it is seeing the security guard behind the desk in the lobby of your building, the clack of your heels on the stone floor, shifting your bag with the muffin in it to your left hand and pressing the round button for the 27th floor and seeing it light up.
Maybe it is a song on the radio as you are driving to work. Maybe it is something you have on.
There have got to be moments in your life that give you pleasure and you have got to pay attention to them.
I think you have made a great beginning by writing this letter. You have begun a journey of self-discovery that will be years unfolding.
And so it begins. Good luck. Don't take hazy, noncommittal half-truths for answers. This is your life. You deserve to know. That's the only way you will come alive again.'
http://www.salon.com/life/since_you_asked/2011/02/23/anhedonia_and_depression
Monday 28 February 2011
Thursday 24 February 2011
Being and enlightenment
It's refreshing to read someone else gets it too.
'When you're in the presence of such a person, no verbal exchange is necessary to know who you are dealing with. Such people can serve in monasteries or stock markets, run corporations or run for office, walk the desert or walk to work. They have the ability to see things as they really are, to accept what is and remain open to all of life. This is done not out of naiveté or denial, but out of profound understanding of how life really works.'http://www.huffingtonpost.com/natasha-dern/enlightenment_b_825365.html
'When you're in the presence of such a person, no verbal exchange is necessary to know who you are dealing with. Such people can serve in monasteries or stock markets, run corporations or run for office, walk the desert or walk to work. They have the ability to see things as they really are, to accept what is and remain open to all of life. This is done not out of naiveté or denial, but out of profound understanding of how life really works.'http://www.huffingtonpost.com/natasha-dern/enlightenment_b_825365.html
Give everyone a hug, and one for yourself too
Where does it all stem from?
It's a good question I ask myself everyday about anyone (including myself) and their reaction to things. The picture represents a playing field with different shaped obstacles to avoid. But should we really be avoiding them or just embracing them instead?
Everything always leads to a source, the breakdown to find that source as difficult as that may be should equate to a pleasurable outcome. It opens doors to tap into emotions and to treat our surrounding environment in a new way, which in effect reaches new elements of happiness.
The battle to emotionally survive can seem like a wise move. Of course It's always a hindrance to feel sad, to feel annoyed, angry, rejected, scared, vulnerable, embarrassed (and many other 'negative' feelings'... But once the doors to those emotions have opened, it only prepares you for a wider range of being with how you feel-those of which bring a more positive effect to your life.
Happiness. Warmth. Love. Affection. Excitement. Passion. Desire.
The desire to share with others around you, but really share and express who you are. Do not be afraid, I would say that once these potential guards are down, you can surprise yourself in how you treat other people. How you enjoy your time together more, not in the sense that you never did before, I would say it makes you appreciate that time much more so.
Everyday you will feel luckier and more blessed that you have such a great take on life. And others will recognise your healthy attitude too. It will flow into them and produce a great positive effect to their day as well. People like to know where they stand. Lets try not to push them over with our own unbalance of being. I suppose it's putting yourself out there with no fear in being exposed.
Is there really a negative in being exposed though? We should sense no threat in how people react to us, let us be and skip in a flourish of living. Acceptance is always desired, but if there is a case where we don't become embraced, ask yourself whether you wish for them to be a part of your life too? Sometimes we just don't click with others. For one to judge us and hold it against us is only because it challenges and confuses what they already know... If you were to die tomorrow, you just wouldn't care.
Breathe, exhale and laugh. And give those around you a hug, because all we want to know really, is that all will be OK.
It's a good question I ask myself everyday about anyone (including myself) and their reaction to things. The picture represents a playing field with different shaped obstacles to avoid. But should we really be avoiding them or just embracing them instead?
Everything always leads to a source, the breakdown to find that source as difficult as that may be should equate to a pleasurable outcome. It opens doors to tap into emotions and to treat our surrounding environment in a new way, which in effect reaches new elements of happiness.
The battle to emotionally survive can seem like a wise move. Of course It's always a hindrance to feel sad, to feel annoyed, angry, rejected, scared, vulnerable, embarrassed (and many other 'negative' feelings'... But once the doors to those emotions have opened, it only prepares you for a wider range of being with how you feel-those of which bring a more positive effect to your life.
Happiness. Warmth. Love. Affection. Excitement. Passion. Desire.
The desire to share with others around you, but really share and express who you are. Do not be afraid, I would say that once these potential guards are down, you can surprise yourself in how you treat other people. How you enjoy your time together more, not in the sense that you never did before, I would say it makes you appreciate that time much more so.
Everyday you will feel luckier and more blessed that you have such a great take on life. And others will recognise your healthy attitude too. It will flow into them and produce a great positive effect to their day as well. People like to know where they stand. Lets try not to push them over with our own unbalance of being. I suppose it's putting yourself out there with no fear in being exposed.
Is there really a negative in being exposed though? We should sense no threat in how people react to us, let us be and skip in a flourish of living. Acceptance is always desired, but if there is a case where we don't become embraced, ask yourself whether you wish for them to be a part of your life too? Sometimes we just don't click with others. For one to judge us and hold it against us is only because it challenges and confuses what they already know... If you were to die tomorrow, you just wouldn't care.
Breathe, exhale and laugh. And give those around you a hug, because all we want to know really, is that all will be OK.
Wednesday 23 February 2011
The day of age
'At the village party, adults danced with children. Teenagers danced with adults. Young adults danced with elders -- all with an ease of interaction. In America, social activity has sadly become more age-segregated.
The idea of 60-somethings partying with 20-somethings on New Year's Eve has become rare.
In our society, people of different generations certainly don't ignore one another, but they seem to increasingly live in different universes. You could blame technology. Younger generations seem more at ease with the social use of technology. But that would be simplistic. A more likely explanation for increasing age-segregation in the U.S. and Europe may derive from our more individualistic tendencies. We are encouraged to be competitive and strive for individual success and tenaciously pursue our goals, which means that individual desire often shapes the texture of our lives. We move away from home, lose contact with our kin, and often focus our social time on our friends. Such a process leads to age-segregation in which like-minded people talk about like-minded things.
Witnessing how people of all ages are integrated into Vilcabamba social activities made me realize that age-segregation limits our experience and impoverishes our lives. I regret that as a young man I didn't really want to hear my 90 year-old grandfather talk about his escape from Belarus in 1916 or how he struggled to come to America and begin a family. I could have learned so much from him, but I chose to hang out with my friends instead. In a less age-segregated society, I might I have learned a great deal about our family -- about life. My New Year's wish is that more people might experience the wonders of age-integration so that their lives might be enriched by the knowledge of our elders and the wisdom of our ancestors.'
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/paul-stoller/celebrating-the-old-and-n_b_803911.html
The idea of 60-somethings partying with 20-somethings on New Year's Eve has become rare.
In our society, people of different generations certainly don't ignore one another, but they seem to increasingly live in different universes. You could blame technology. Younger generations seem more at ease with the social use of technology. But that would be simplistic. A more likely explanation for increasing age-segregation in the U.S. and Europe may derive from our more individualistic tendencies. We are encouraged to be competitive and strive for individual success and tenaciously pursue our goals, which means that individual desire often shapes the texture of our lives. We move away from home, lose contact with our kin, and often focus our social time on our friends. Such a process leads to age-segregation in which like-minded people talk about like-minded things.
Witnessing how people of all ages are integrated into Vilcabamba social activities made me realize that age-segregation limits our experience and impoverishes our lives. I regret that as a young man I didn't really want to hear my 90 year-old grandfather talk about his escape from Belarus in 1916 or how he struggled to come to America and begin a family. I could have learned so much from him, but I chose to hang out with my friends instead. In a less age-segregated society, I might I have learned a great deal about our family -- about life. My New Year's wish is that more people might experience the wonders of age-integration so that their lives might be enriched by the knowledge of our elders and the wisdom of our ancestors.'
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/paul-stoller/celebrating-the-old-and-n_b_803911.html
Age, what age?...
Ironic to a discussion with a colleague today, this article came about upon the discussion of age.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-12523624
We were both noting how nice it was to see and know a guy who must be in his late 30s/mid 40s to have such a great personality and spark. My friend noted 'it's nice to see someone of his age, act young'. Though knowing my friends good intentions with his words, I had to disagree with the statement. I thought it best to re-phrase that it wasn't great seeing him act 'young', but to see that he shows his spirit and energy still. We shouldn't assume people to be what we stereotype as 'older', it's a slight shame we are taken back by character and personality for those we know are older than us. It should not be a sign to behave differently with them, to treat them differently or to expect less. It also shouldn't be indication to expect more. I truely believe wisdom does not come with age. If we believe ourselves old then we are old. It is what we do with ourself which makes us alive and well.
We have to realise, if we catagorise ourselves and set a design for us to be, it can hold restrictions as well as opening doors.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-12523624
We were both noting how nice it was to see and know a guy who must be in his late 30s/mid 40s to have such a great personality and spark. My friend noted 'it's nice to see someone of his age, act young'. Though knowing my friends good intentions with his words, I had to disagree with the statement. I thought it best to re-phrase that it wasn't great seeing him act 'young', but to see that he shows his spirit and energy still. We shouldn't assume people to be what we stereotype as 'older', it's a slight shame we are taken back by character and personality for those we know are older than us. It should not be a sign to behave differently with them, to treat them differently or to expect less. It also shouldn't be indication to expect more. I truely believe wisdom does not come with age. If we believe ourselves old then we are old. It is what we do with ourself which makes us alive and well.
We have to realise, if we catagorise ourselves and set a design for us to be, it can hold restrictions as well as opening doors.
RANT
Really, just really, are we blaming Facebook for letting us have TOO MANY FRIENDS!?
"You are almost a mini celebrity and the bigger the audience the more pressure you feel to produce something about yourself." http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-edinburgh-east-fife-12479660
Seriously? People put pressure on themselves for something so insignificant in their lives?!
There really needs to be a balance!
There was life before this you know!?
Sure there are other people, but YOU came first.
"You are almost a mini celebrity and the bigger the audience the more pressure you feel to produce something about yourself." http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-edinburgh-east-fife-12479660
Seriously? People put pressure on themselves for something so insignificant in their lives?!
There really needs to be a balance!
There was life before this you know!?
Sure there are other people, but YOU came first.
Tuesday 22 February 2011
The old becomes the present
And it shocks surprises and excites.
I think, I know, I trust. It's all that can be. Smile and let how you used to feel, go...and it shall become something or a moment in time.
One can only test and try a lifestyle. And see where it all fits in, if they allow.
I think, I know, I trust. It's all that can be. Smile and let how you used to feel, go...and it shall become something or a moment in time.
One can only test and try a lifestyle. And see where it all fits in, if they allow.
The zen and the un-zen
There was a scary moment.
But I got by. You just do. Alone.
It was a side by side challenge. The desire and knowing to keep cool. And the sick mind that followed.
The sick mind for others, one can only empathise.
You think alone. And the rest becomes your discovery. Allows the others to flow in too. You can't control how the rest will react and feel. It is not a duty and not a way of being. It helps to get a grip. Perhaps a smack in the head will help. Events will occur to make one realise. Frustration is a fickle thing. Flutter.
But I got by. You just do. Alone.
It was a side by side challenge. The desire and knowing to keep cool. And the sick mind that followed.
The sick mind for others, one can only empathise.
You think alone. And the rest becomes your discovery. Allows the others to flow in too. You can't control how the rest will react and feel. It is not a duty and not a way of being. It helps to get a grip. Perhaps a smack in the head will help. Events will occur to make one realise. Frustration is a fickle thing. Flutter.
We all should run into tables
During a conversation one day, the line, 'kids are great, they don't have this awareness, I mean they can just run into table!' occurred.
'so let go, jump in
oh well, whatcha waiting for
it's alright
'cause there's beauty in the breakdown
so let go, just get in
oh, it's so amazing here
it's alright
'cause there's beauty in the breakdown'
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x52w8txtiQs
This couldn't have been said better:
'Control is overrated, if your idea is to actually truly live your life. Whether it's learning how to dance or having the richest travel experience, life's enjoyments are fueled by letting go of the safety equipment.' http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joe-robinson/out-of-control-why-adults_b_825833.html
In conversation with another though...
'The word 'life' does not have any meaning'...
I beg to differ, we all make choices
'it has meaning if you make a life for it'...
'It's a relief to not know where you are, perfectly acceptable when out of our element on the road. We try things we never would at home, adapt to the unfamiliar and unpredictable, and in the process feel empowered from new experiences we handled...It's the job of the control police to make sure you never have a chance to be vulnerable, thereby locking you out of the precondition to learning, fun and friendship.
Foolishness automatically removes the security blanket holding back the authentic expression of your life through play. It's a kind of active not-knowing, a basic step on the way to fun, learning and a less ego-driven life. It frees you from the ability of stone cold strangers or friends to determine your life for you by looks or comments that keep you frozen in familiarity.
Not caring whether you look foolish opens up the living potential exponentially. Instead of having the majority of the exhilarating experiences on the planet ruled out because they're out of your comfort zone, suddenly, everything this side of a trip to Mars is in. That's a good thing, since experiences are where life satisfaction and you live. Researchers say we're at our happiest when we're immersed in engaging recreational experiences, i.e., play.
Being out of control in the service of learning, fun and growth, oddly enough, places you in control of your life, because you are self-determining its content. Keep the beginner's mind on, and there is no shame in being out of your element. You can see that your element is, in fact, just a box, one that doesn't move forward. Foolishness busts you out of lockdown. '
Now I'm just mentally buzzing with smiles all around at my desk. Many many important words. Because it is all so true. Remember to share it with yourself and anyone else who enters your life. For we are here to be. When you really think about it, that is all.
'so let go, jump in
oh well, whatcha waiting for
it's alright
'cause there's beauty in the breakdown
so let go, just get in
oh, it's so amazing here
it's alright
'cause there's beauty in the breakdown'
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x52w8txtiQs
This couldn't have been said better:
'Control is overrated, if your idea is to actually truly live your life. Whether it's learning how to dance or having the richest travel experience, life's enjoyments are fueled by letting go of the safety equipment.' http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joe-robinson/out-of-control-why-adults_b_825833.html
In conversation with another though...
'The word 'life' does not have any meaning'...
I beg to differ, we all make choices
'it has meaning if you make a life for it'...
'It's a relief to not know where you are, perfectly acceptable when out of our element on the road. We try things we never would at home, adapt to the unfamiliar and unpredictable, and in the process feel empowered from new experiences we handled...It's the job of the control police to make sure you never have a chance to be vulnerable, thereby locking you out of the precondition to learning, fun and friendship.
Foolishness automatically removes the security blanket holding back the authentic expression of your life through play. It's a kind of active not-knowing, a basic step on the way to fun, learning and a less ego-driven life. It frees you from the ability of stone cold strangers or friends to determine your life for you by looks or comments that keep you frozen in familiarity.
Not caring whether you look foolish opens up the living potential exponentially. Instead of having the majority of the exhilarating experiences on the planet ruled out because they're out of your comfort zone, suddenly, everything this side of a trip to Mars is in. That's a good thing, since experiences are where life satisfaction and you live. Researchers say we're at our happiest when we're immersed in engaging recreational experiences, i.e., play.
Being out of control in the service of learning, fun and growth, oddly enough, places you in control of your life, because you are self-determining its content. Keep the beginner's mind on, and there is no shame in being out of your element. You can see that your element is, in fact, just a box, one that doesn't move forward. Foolishness busts you out of lockdown. '
Now I'm just mentally buzzing with smiles all around at my desk. Many many important words. Because it is all so true. Remember to share it with yourself and anyone else who enters your life. For we are here to be. When you really think about it, that is all.
The difference is between need and want
Perhaps once this is established then all shall fit into place. How far can you dig too deep? And is it all really that necessary?
'The wiring I am referring to is your instinctual intelligence system. When you "wake up" with the realization that a horse is sitting on your head, or your own version of that, the only thing that will move you to safety is your instincts -- not your boss, not your parents and not your spouse. The only thing that gets you out of an unsafe situation every single time is you. The greater your tolerance for the status quo, the greater you risk getting hurt. The greater your agility in the unexpected, the faster you move to a place of safety.
So your best bet in times of turbulence is to tap into what is instinctual in you, to listen to your own internal GPS and trust it like crazy.'
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-arie/being-present_b_825163.html
We are all hyprocrites, as we give advice yet we may not necessarily follow ourselves. Life is an ocean and we shall swim in it. Our choice is within self to allow to sink or swim, or even lilo along the way-we combat the challenges in the way we feel natural to us-though sometimes words from others, or essentially a set of arm bands can encourage us to succesfully spread out. Whether the sea is hot or cold emerging ourselves will be a great experience. The fear could be good preparation yet will it hold ourselves back? We can't control the unknown, don't let these fears affect anyone else though-because it isn't fair.
'The wiring I am referring to is your instinctual intelligence system. When you "wake up" with the realization that a horse is sitting on your head, or your own version of that, the only thing that will move you to safety is your instincts -- not your boss, not your parents and not your spouse. The only thing that gets you out of an unsafe situation every single time is you. The greater your tolerance for the status quo, the greater you risk getting hurt. The greater your agility in the unexpected, the faster you move to a place of safety.
So your best bet in times of turbulence is to tap into what is instinctual in you, to listen to your own internal GPS and trust it like crazy.'
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-arie/being-present_b_825163.html
We are all hyprocrites, as we give advice yet we may not necessarily follow ourselves. Life is an ocean and we shall swim in it. Our choice is within self to allow to sink or swim, or even lilo along the way-we combat the challenges in the way we feel natural to us-though sometimes words from others, or essentially a set of arm bands can encourage us to succesfully spread out. Whether the sea is hot or cold emerging ourselves will be a great experience. The fear could be good preparation yet will it hold ourselves back? We can't control the unknown, don't let these fears affect anyone else though-because it isn't fair.
Waiting room
Of all the things I would never have known to prepare for this. It feels warm. It feels a blessing. It feels fear. It feels courage. It feels stupidity. Vulnerability or strength?
Sometimes you can't fight for others. Sometimes you shouldn't fight against yourself. Being aware doesn't make it a weakness. It can only be a strength-it's something to work on.
Laugh at yourself. Be patient with others. Ramble and flounce and flarrr about.
Sometimes you can't fight for others. Sometimes you shouldn't fight against yourself. Being aware doesn't make it a weakness. It can only be a strength-it's something to work on.
Laugh at yourself. Be patient with others. Ramble and flounce and flarrr about.
Monday 21 February 2011
Both sides now
I think my guards are down less. One surprises self everyday.
'I'm sure that if we took a poll right now we would all come up with different ideas about what freedom means to each of us. Everyone wants to be free. Free to feel how we want to feel; to express ourselves however we want to express ourselves; to "Live free or die," as New Hampshirites say. Some of us want to break the chains of an oppressive relationship. Some want financial freedom. Some of us just want to be free from the tight belt around our waistlines.
But becoming free -- whether in body, mind or spirit -- means making changes, moving into a new way of being and stepping into a more expansive image of ourselves. And most often, we don't know how to do that. It's like in the movies, when the old guy that's been serving years in prison for a crime he didn't commit finally gets released. We watch him walk outside the prison gate for the first time. You can tell that he's thinking: "Ah, freedom! Ah, now what do I do?"
If the only way of life we have ever known is slavery, so to speak -- being imprisoned by our thoughts, beliefs, or outward circumstances and situations -- how then do we learn to live in freedom?' http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lorna-bright/egypt-freedom_b_823675.html
We feel so free yet we restrict ourselves without even realising. One can feel happy given a situation, action, moment, breath. At the time it may seem like being, but is it really experiencing the true worth of its value? Our happiness waves and flows by our mental capacity to allow such action, moment, being to a feeling that could be greater of its current worth. To allow such to happen isn't always a conscious decision but will come over time. The realisation of it all is such a great sense to follow. To let it be really is the way. When we are ready will be unique to any individuals time.
'The first is that it's in our interior life that our experience of freedom really begins -- where, in our dreams and imagination, we can be whatever and whoever we want to be, do whatever we want and have whatever we desire.
Secondly, true freedom necessitates letting go of the past. Don't let yourself entertain thoughts of repression, oppression or suppression in any way, shape or form. Keep your eyes only on the road to freedom before you. You don't need a rear view mirror because you're not going back. The past? Forget about it! Slavery? What's that? Don't even go there.
No, I've never toppled a dictatorship or torn down a divisive wall, but I do know that even the smallest steps to freedom can be frightening and somewhat intimidating. So, just like nervous parents sending their child off on a cross-country trip, we watch as the Egyptian people set out on a new adventure. We're pulling for them because on the world stage they're playing out our own desires for freedom. Let's raise a glass of sweet tea to freedom -- theirs and ours.'
Take a look around, see what you like
'I'm sure that if we took a poll right now we would all come up with different ideas about what freedom means to each of us. Everyone wants to be free. Free to feel how we want to feel; to express ourselves however we want to express ourselves; to "Live free or die," as New Hampshirites say. Some of us want to break the chains of an oppressive relationship. Some want financial freedom. Some of us just want to be free from the tight belt around our waistlines.
But becoming free -- whether in body, mind or spirit -- means making changes, moving into a new way of being and stepping into a more expansive image of ourselves. And most often, we don't know how to do that. It's like in the movies, when the old guy that's been serving years in prison for a crime he didn't commit finally gets released. We watch him walk outside the prison gate for the first time. You can tell that he's thinking: "Ah, freedom! Ah, now what do I do?"
If the only way of life we have ever known is slavery, so to speak -- being imprisoned by our thoughts, beliefs, or outward circumstances and situations -- how then do we learn to live in freedom?' http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lorna-bright/egypt-freedom_b_823675.html
We feel so free yet we restrict ourselves without even realising. One can feel happy given a situation, action, moment, breath. At the time it may seem like being, but is it really experiencing the true worth of its value? Our happiness waves and flows by our mental capacity to allow such action, moment, being to a feeling that could be greater of its current worth. To allow such to happen isn't always a conscious decision but will come over time. The realisation of it all is such a great sense to follow. To let it be really is the way. When we are ready will be unique to any individuals time.
'The first is that it's in our interior life that our experience of freedom really begins -- where, in our dreams and imagination, we can be whatever and whoever we want to be, do whatever we want and have whatever we desire.
Secondly, true freedom necessitates letting go of the past. Don't let yourself entertain thoughts of repression, oppression or suppression in any way, shape or form. Keep your eyes only on the road to freedom before you. You don't need a rear view mirror because you're not going back. The past? Forget about it! Slavery? What's that? Don't even go there.
No, I've never toppled a dictatorship or torn down a divisive wall, but I do know that even the smallest steps to freedom can be frightening and somewhat intimidating. So, just like nervous parents sending their child off on a cross-country trip, we watch as the Egyptian people set out on a new adventure. We're pulling for them because on the world stage they're playing out our own desires for freedom. Let's raise a glass of sweet tea to freedom -- theirs and ours.'
Take a look around, see what you like
Sunday 20 February 2011
Friday 18 February 2011
Song of the day
'This is the story of a champion
runners on their mark and they pop their guns
Stand up stand up here he comes
Tell me what it takes to be number 1
Tell me what it takes to be number 1'
Kanye West: Champion
runners on their mark and they pop their guns
Stand up stand up here he comes
Tell me what it takes to be number 1
Tell me what it takes to be number 1'
Kanye West: Champion
Don't plod
Swagger, sway, stride, stretch, glide, gander, explore
Hesitation is a healthy process, it only adds to enhance that your decision was right or wrong.
But it's all something to learn from.
A walk can represent how you feel.
Skip if you wish, stomp if you want. It's all energy and it feels so good.
Hesitation is a healthy process, it only adds to enhance that your decision was right or wrong.
But it's all something to learn from.
A walk can represent how you feel.
Skip if you wish, stomp if you want. It's all energy and it feels so good.
Thursday 17 February 2011
A sweet reminder
Though I tend not to take any religious influence into my own.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/cristina-carlino/five-ways-choosing-love-c_b_822721.html
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/cristina-carlino/five-ways-choosing-love-c_b_822721.html
Line of work
It is very important to not give all away in a glance, word, expression.
No-one wants to feel in the position where perhaps they could be out of line...
I know it would be easier if everybody gave everyone the benefit of the doubt, but lets not kid ourselves as we know that doesn't always exist. The key is to always be prepared, in your mind for what may alter.
It's easy to forget not everyone may work like you do. There is possibility to get yourself in trouble and come across as rude. The alien and unknown will always throw you over hurdles, its up to you to pick yourself back up again.
No-one wants to feel in the position where perhaps they could be out of line...
I know it would be easier if everybody gave everyone the benefit of the doubt, but lets not kid ourselves as we know that doesn't always exist. The key is to always be prepared, in your mind for what may alter.
It's easy to forget not everyone may work like you do. There is possibility to get yourself in trouble and come across as rude. The alien and unknown will always throw you over hurdles, its up to you to pick yourself back up again.
Point
And again, sometimes we just need to be told what we already know. It helps. And there is nothing wrong with that either...
'It is hard to be an individual. It is hard to be true to yourself when it means going without the rewards that others reap with ease. It is hard to live with uncertainty, not knowing where your physical comforts will come from. It is hard looking around and seeing others who are better dressed than you are, who are driving better cars and living in better houses and sending their children to better schools. But this is the price you pay for something sweeter. What is sweeter is knowing that you have been true to your own soul.'
http://www.salon.com/life/since_you_asked/index.html?story=/mwt/col/tenn/2011/02/16/swimming_upstream
'It is hard to be an individual. It is hard to be true to yourself when it means going without the rewards that others reap with ease. It is hard to live with uncertainty, not knowing where your physical comforts will come from. It is hard looking around and seeing others who are better dressed than you are, who are driving better cars and living in better houses and sending their children to better schools. But this is the price you pay for something sweeter. What is sweeter is knowing that you have been true to your own soul.'
http://www.salon.com/life/since_you_asked/index.html?story=/mwt/col/tenn/2011/02/16/swimming_upstream
Layout
How image can affect everything can be a huge wonder.
We all respond in different ways to colours, signs, shapes, expressions. It would seem we are all predators. We pounce on what we like, we seize, we take, we encompass.
What feels different to us should not be seen as a threat. Though most peoples intial reaction is to push away the unknown before giving it a chance. To some, certain emotions are alien and they do not want to expose themselves to such things. Others, do not register with such familiarity and want to go beyond the comfort zone. I suppose many are on a defense or would prefer to have someone close to guide them on the way.
The balance between the two is a curious one.
I can see why having to explain yourself, or more so describe yourself can be a little wearing. Of course you would rather display your true self than the reserved kind. I could say why waste time, though its strange that we all follow a gut instinct of where and when the right place and moment is to truly be. If that instinct was rid perhaps most days would have more colourful results. Or are we basing ourselves in the wrong environment which perhaps is restricting our creative flow?
Image is everything. Location is everything. Though the people make it what it is. And so does the attitude you bring with it, to it and how you treat what comes to you as well.
Sometimes people can say words but they just don't mean anything. Sometimes they can just fill a gap. Though I feel however light they may feel-everything builds up to something. Anything can lead and everything can wonder. It all just depends whether the way they wonder is right for you.
Most of the time we already know what to do, sometimes it takes others to remind us. Most days I feel like I may be repeating myself-or am I just reminding one of what needs be to keep it going and maintain? The fall back would be awful.
We all respond in different ways to colours, signs, shapes, expressions. It would seem we are all predators. We pounce on what we like, we seize, we take, we encompass.
What feels different to us should not be seen as a threat. Though most peoples intial reaction is to push away the unknown before giving it a chance. To some, certain emotions are alien and they do not want to expose themselves to such things. Others, do not register with such familiarity and want to go beyond the comfort zone. I suppose many are on a defense or would prefer to have someone close to guide them on the way.
The balance between the two is a curious one.
I can see why having to explain yourself, or more so describe yourself can be a little wearing. Of course you would rather display your true self than the reserved kind. I could say why waste time, though its strange that we all follow a gut instinct of where and when the right place and moment is to truly be. If that instinct was rid perhaps most days would have more colourful results. Or are we basing ourselves in the wrong environment which perhaps is restricting our creative flow?
Image is everything. Location is everything. Though the people make it what it is. And so does the attitude you bring with it, to it and how you treat what comes to you as well.
Sometimes people can say words but they just don't mean anything. Sometimes they can just fill a gap. Though I feel however light they may feel-everything builds up to something. Anything can lead and everything can wonder. It all just depends whether the way they wonder is right for you.
Most of the time we already know what to do, sometimes it takes others to remind us. Most days I feel like I may be repeating myself-or am I just reminding one of what needs be to keep it going and maintain? The fall back would be awful.
Rantings, for a world like this...
Where it takes someone to recognise your facebook status for self encourage to get to a hospital.
Oh dear...
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-12477767
We all should take better care of ourselves. There was once a world without facebook status'. Have we really let ourselves fall into a woe of technology online? It's so easy these days to quickly diagnose yourself over the Internet, are we instead saving the GPs time by doing so or wasting our own and letting our health deteriorate?
Oh dear...
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-12477767
We all should take better care of ourselves. There was once a world without facebook status'. Have we really let ourselves fall into a woe of technology online? It's so easy these days to quickly diagnose yourself over the Internet, are we instead saving the GPs time by doing so or wasting our own and letting our health deteriorate?
Wednesday 16 February 2011
I think we have all been there
http://www.salon.com/life/life_stories/index.html?story=/mwt/feature/2011/02/14/bingeing_on_snackwell_cookies
Perhaps not in this particular way, but the meaning of it is you always get to that point when you know you just have to sort it out.
Sometimes it helps the reactions of others or odd behavior of ourselves for it to stare us in the face-now is time to balance it out and evaluate our ways.
We wallow in our ways. It takes others to remind us when to kick ourselves out of them.
Sometimes it is good for someone to tell you to shut up. It's even better when you tell yourself that, and really listen. We tell ourselves most things we already know, but do we always live on our own advice? It's always easier to tell someone else what to do, though with ourselves perhaps the lessons are only learned the hard way-not necessarily too late. We can't always see it as a negative, the outcome will only make us greater.
Point
What made me smile today...
'Shift your perspective. You're not running the show.
What we express does not originate inside us. What we express we pass on. We borrow. We are conduits. This yearning, this is not from inside you. It is your response to an invitation. Or you might say it is a pressure differential rooted externally. The world is trying to pull something out of you. Let the world pull this thing out of you. Let the world act on you.
The future is unknowable. If it's in the right direction, that's often good enough.
If there are lights on the horizon that attract you, start walking toward them.'
So so
Ok, so I feel the need to write but find little really driving me to really write. Usually there is a necessary release connected, whether its a nature of daily content im not sure. This is one thing I do not want to give up on.
I would love to be able to write a smile. Because that is what I would like to put on the page without having to draw the emotion.
My sense of gratitude and warmth inside cannot be just with words. I suppose in some ways these feelings can only be expressed-can we really 'need' to describe. Desire to describe and to simply have things written down to clarify and expel. To show and experience perhaps is the better way, and taking that moment to feel it and make the most of it too.
A part of my life I wonder how long I can keep it up for. Being on the surface can only take its toll. Its great to unite together and to feel a restriction seems to have affect on other passions I live for.
I never want to lose my drive and have concerns perhaps It can be focused into frustration a little too much for my liking these days. It should not affect my passion, lust and energy.
It should just flow without thinking too much about it.
It's always great to take yourself away.
I would love to be able to write a smile. Because that is what I would like to put on the page without having to draw the emotion.
My sense of gratitude and warmth inside cannot be just with words. I suppose in some ways these feelings can only be expressed-can we really 'need' to describe. Desire to describe and to simply have things written down to clarify and expel. To show and experience perhaps is the better way, and taking that moment to feel it and make the most of it too.
A part of my life I wonder how long I can keep it up for. Being on the surface can only take its toll. Its great to unite together and to feel a restriction seems to have affect on other passions I live for.
I never want to lose my drive and have concerns perhaps It can be focused into frustration a little too much for my liking these days. It should not affect my passion, lust and energy.
It should just flow without thinking too much about it.
It's always great to take yourself away.
Tuesday 15 February 2011
A love to lust?
Words of the day, which made me smile
'Lust is nice, I love lust, it makes me warm'
'I think it is far far better than love, you cant help it but to be in it'
'you have a freedom when you are in lust'.
'Lust is nice, I love lust, it makes me warm'
'I think it is far far better than love, you cant help it but to be in it'
'you have a freedom when you are in lust'.
I mean this with all my heart...
Please grow a pair
http://www.salon.com/life/valentines_day/index.html?story=/mwt/feature/2011/02/14/friends
'My friends are the ones who have actually supported me through this chaotic time. They are the ones who have made me feel less alone.'
Alone is good. There is a difference between needing and being as you are.
I hope more realise this because it does get tedious reading complaints about people being alone, when really they mean lonely-and desire company.
Hit the nail on the head and sort the issues out.
Please.
Too much pressure is placed on valentines day.
Some would say society.
At this point I would blame ourselves.
We are silly enough to be taken by the belief of the commercial Valentine.
Enjoy your time as one. Because we all are one.
Use the initiative to know that there is no wrong in essentially having no other 'one' to go home too.
Why do we feel 'incomplete' as ourselves? There should be no dependence on knowing there is someone else at our side (you know, just in case we need them...)
Comfort comes from you being you, as you, alone, as one.
You could call it contentment.
I find that a greater relationship of them all
http://www.salon.com/life/valentines_day/index.html?story=/mwt/feature/2011/02/14/friends
'My friends are the ones who have actually supported me through this chaotic time. They are the ones who have made me feel less alone.'
Alone is good. There is a difference between needing and being as you are.
I hope more realise this because it does get tedious reading complaints about people being alone, when really they mean lonely-and desire company.
Hit the nail on the head and sort the issues out.
Please.
Too much pressure is placed on valentines day.
Some would say society.
At this point I would blame ourselves.
We are silly enough to be taken by the belief of the commercial Valentine.
Enjoy your time as one. Because we all are one.
Use the initiative to know that there is no wrong in essentially having no other 'one' to go home too.
Why do we feel 'incomplete' as ourselves? There should be no dependence on knowing there is someone else at our side (you know, just in case we need them...)
Comfort comes from you being you, as you, alone, as one.
You could call it contentment.
I find that a greater relationship of them all
Monday 14 February 2011
Words of the day
'The sources of ecstasy are unexpected.'
http://www.salon.com/life/since_you_asked/index.html?story=/mwt/col/tenn/2011/02/13/scientist_needs_to_meditate
'What about art? I think you need art in your life. Remember when you used to get excited about art? I sense that you are capable of having ecstatic experiences with art and suggest that you begin attending events in your favorite art form. Think back to a time that you experienced high moments looking at a painting or listening to music. Is it opera? Is it symphonic music? Is it painting? Drama? I strongly suggest you begin attending your favorite art form.'
And my favourite part...
'You need to be reminded of majesty.'
http://www.salon.com/life/since_you_asked/index.html?story=/mwt/col/tenn/2011/02/13/scientist_needs_to_meditate
'What about art? I think you need art in your life. Remember when you used to get excited about art? I sense that you are capable of having ecstatic experiences with art and suggest that you begin attending events in your favorite art form. Think back to a time that you experienced high moments looking at a painting or listening to music. Is it opera? Is it symphonic music? Is it painting? Drama? I strongly suggest you begin attending your favorite art form.'
And my favourite part...
'You need to be reminded of majesty.'
And this is why I believe religion is dangerous
'Overall, I just feel overwhelmed. At the same time, I am apathetic. I have this deep belief that every human situation is basically the same, regardless of outside circumstances. God loves all his creatures equally, or put in a less religious way, humans adapt and everyone is on the same hedonic treadmill. Everyone has good days and bad days. So it's all good. Nothing matters. I came to that conclusion when I was suicidal a while back, and it pulled me back into trying to stay alive. However, at the same time as holding that belief, I'm scared of giving in to it because what if I'm wrong? '
http://www.salon.com/life/since_you_asked/index.html?story=/mwt/col/tenn/2011/02/13/scientist_needs_to_meditate
Surely if you don't believe, then there is no false hope!
Accept things as they are and just be.
Lets not kid ourselves!
We create our own societies and small worlds, so when faced with the larger ones out there, we feel dimished and scared by the buildings that tower over us.
Don't get lost in what you know
Be amazed by what there is to explore.
http://www.salon.com/life/since_you_asked/index.html?story=/mwt/col/tenn/2011/02/13/scientist_needs_to_meditate
Surely if you don't believe, then there is no false hope!
Accept things as they are and just be.
Lets not kid ourselves!
We create our own societies and small worlds, so when faced with the larger ones out there, we feel dimished and scared by the buildings that tower over us.
Don't get lost in what you know
Be amazed by what there is to explore.
A piece of the past to learn for the present
With coming to terms with 'happiness', (yes, I do believe some people do have to come to to terms with it if it has been so alien before) one stumbled across this article.
Ideally the week would flow like this, people would be less stressed and more chilled if we had
a four day week and a 3 day weekend.
Balance out what people see as good, from bad-usually work is always
seen as a negative, a chore.
Humans should learn to accept that life is now, when we die we will
die and that we shouldn't battle with science to prolong the time we
have been given, and the time we give ourselves to live, learn and
experience.
Why drag out the aging process?
'We must measure the gains to our ageing population of today's
fast-developing medicine against the problems created globally.'
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-11911065
Sure, you can call it aging. Although, I'd prefer to call it, growing.
Wisdom does not come with age, it comes from growth...
It frustrates me that most of the time, some can seem more surprised
when they are having a good day, as apposed to the generic everyday,
the usual standard we all 'put up' with. Everyday should be the 'good
day', and when a day becomes greater than some, it should be seen as a
exception. Life would seem less of a battle and chase, if the majority
were fulfilled.
I feel we should all recognise more frequently how everyday should be
appreciated, celebrated. Perhaps then there would be less desire to
unhealthily extend life beyond what naturally should occur. What is
meant to be, will be. Of course there are some exceptions, religion
affecting say, the choice to receive blood if needed. We could break
it down until it becomes unrewarding. We can all question how
unnatural or natural this opportunity is to extend life...
Most aren't satisfied. Many people crave. The desperation and lack of,
just being, actually makes me sick. More damage is done wasting time
with unsettlement. Myself for example was not so content a few
months/weeks or even days back. Now I am more settled. It's
interesting how becoming used to this feeling feels and it has become a task
or adjustment. Unfortunately some cannot get used to it so quickly.
Shame. Though it has to be said, many make problems for themselves
because they are not used to feeling satisfied, perhaps with what they
have, or, they don't realise what they have, is good. I find myself
guilty of this. Overwhelmed must not turn to underwhelmed. Most should
just be whelmed. Which I imagine is zen.
Thrive for every day.
Breathe and savour it.
For everyday is new, and we should just embrace.
And also. Embarrassment is a funny thing too. I personally, believe
that I rarely become embarrassed. Mostly because I think why should I
feel shame for my actions. Most of the time it is others which cause
us to feel embarrassed, because of how they react to our actions. They
are the ones that struggle to accept, not I.
At first when writing this I wrote 'Fuck them.' Where as now I see that one day too those people will laugh. All we can do is smile at them and know we are cool within ourselves.
If one self can laugh at our own actions, doesn't that make us the
more 'superior' person-if you choose to look at it like that. Surely
the other person is feeling more embarrassment for themselves-for some
strange reason. They are uncomfortable with what has happened to us-for themselves to be the witness. It is always better to laugh then to hold on to
'shame'. Without laughter, are we causing unnecessary shame for
ourselves?
Unnecessary pain.
If more people smiled at each other, without shame of rejection and
judgement... We all should just be more pleasant. And then people
would think, ah, its not so bad after all.
Ideally the week would flow like this, people would be less stressed and more chilled if we had
a four day week and a 3 day weekend.
Balance out what people see as good, from bad-usually work is always
seen as a negative, a chore.
Humans should learn to accept that life is now, when we die we will
die and that we shouldn't battle with science to prolong the time we
have been given, and the time we give ourselves to live, learn and
experience.
Why drag out the aging process?
'We must measure the gains to our ageing population of today's
fast-developing medicine against the problems created globally.'
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-11911065
Sure, you can call it aging. Although, I'd prefer to call it, growing.
Wisdom does not come with age, it comes from growth...
It frustrates me that most of the time, some can seem more surprised
when they are having a good day, as apposed to the generic everyday,
the usual standard we all 'put up' with. Everyday should be the 'good
day', and when a day becomes greater than some, it should be seen as a
exception. Life would seem less of a battle and chase, if the majority
were fulfilled.
I feel we should all recognise more frequently how everyday should be
appreciated, celebrated. Perhaps then there would be less desire to
unhealthily extend life beyond what naturally should occur. What is
meant to be, will be. Of course there are some exceptions, religion
affecting say, the choice to receive blood if needed. We could break
it down until it becomes unrewarding. We can all question how
unnatural or natural this opportunity is to extend life...
Most aren't satisfied. Many people crave. The desperation and lack of,
just being, actually makes me sick. More damage is done wasting time
with unsettlement. Myself for example was not so content a few
months/weeks or even days back. Now I am more settled. It's
interesting how becoming used to this feeling feels and it has become a task
or adjustment. Unfortunately some cannot get used to it so quickly.
Shame. Though it has to be said, many make problems for themselves
because they are not used to feeling satisfied, perhaps with what they
have, or, they don't realise what they have, is good. I find myself
guilty of this. Overwhelmed must not turn to underwhelmed. Most should
just be whelmed. Which I imagine is zen.
Thrive for every day.
Breathe and savour it.
For everyday is new, and we should just embrace.
And also. Embarrassment is a funny thing too. I personally, believe
that I rarely become embarrassed. Mostly because I think why should I
feel shame for my actions. Most of the time it is others which cause
us to feel embarrassed, because of how they react to our actions. They
are the ones that struggle to accept, not I.
At first when writing this I wrote 'Fuck them.' Where as now I see that one day too those people will laugh. All we can do is smile at them and know we are cool within ourselves.
If one self can laugh at our own actions, doesn't that make us the
more 'superior' person-if you choose to look at it like that. Surely
the other person is feeling more embarrassment for themselves-for some
strange reason. They are uncomfortable with what has happened to us-for themselves to be the witness. It is always better to laugh then to hold on to
'shame'. Without laughter, are we causing unnecessary shame for
ourselves?
Unnecessary pain.
If more people smiled at each other, without shame of rejection and
judgement... We all should just be more pleasant. And then people
would think, ah, its not so bad after all.
RESTauRANT
Words can unnecessarily fill a gap.
Sometimes there is no need.
They feel they have to say something. Either because they can't deal with the silence. Or because they can't deal with the thoughts themselves. The danger. The issues.
We all feel the urgency to provide, to support.
Sometimes it helps to not say anything
You can learn by yourself
From the bottom you can only reach up
And once your at the top, things become horizontal
I prefer to always look up and across
I've never been a huge fan of falling-the bottom seems too far down...
Regardless of the fact I'm fairly way up high
I've never been scared of heights
I'll look over and smile.
Sometimes there is no need.
They feel they have to say something. Either because they can't deal with the silence. Or because they can't deal with the thoughts themselves. The danger. The issues.
We all feel the urgency to provide, to support.
Sometimes it helps to not say anything
You can learn by yourself
From the bottom you can only reach up
And once your at the top, things become horizontal
I prefer to always look up and across
I've never been a huge fan of falling-the bottom seems too far down...
Regardless of the fact I'm fairly way up high
I've never been scared of heights
I'll look over and smile.
Friday 11 February 2011
Off to see the Wizard...
Or to see my family down south in Dorset!
The warmth, the love, the familiar, the stories, the adventure on the train,
Journey
The moment of arrival
The greeting
The smile
It's a lovely moment
and they always vary
The warmth, the love, the familiar, the stories, the adventure on the train,
Journey
The moment of arrival
The greeting
The smile
It's a lovely moment
and they always vary
Thursday 10 February 2011
What if the world worked liked this...
The following probably clashes with my passion to bring people together. Though bringing people together doesn't always have to be in a way of instance...
We all lived in flats/houses, our environment was just for us. Just for one. Perhaps more would realise that life is about ONE. Individual. The idea of moving in with somebody else, wouldn't exist. Whether that be friend, lover, relative. (pets don't count) The exception would be whether daily care was needed for ones dependency. The everyday, would be being, as one, in our own space. Of course, for children to be involved, as odd as it may sound, the too-ing and fro-ing back and forth would become the norm. 'Parent's as such would exist. Just individually.
If living as one was the norm, I'm sure most daily pressures wouldn't exist.
'oh I better get back home to...'
Sleepovers exist-fair enough, but there would always be the other place for somebody else. Time to ourselves, guaranteed. The essence to essentially please ourself. Decide for ourselves. To have the opportunity to create a network with another person, across a measurement of distance-if you imagine how strong that relationship would be to make it work, is quite a beautiful thing. The image of freedom comes to mind. Im curious what image may come to you...
We all lived in flats/houses, our environment was just for us. Just for one. Perhaps more would realise that life is about ONE. Individual. The idea of moving in with somebody else, wouldn't exist. Whether that be friend, lover, relative. (pets don't count) The exception would be whether daily care was needed for ones dependency. The everyday, would be being, as one, in our own space. Of course, for children to be involved, as odd as it may sound, the too-ing and fro-ing back and forth would become the norm. 'Parent's as such would exist. Just individually.
If living as one was the norm, I'm sure most daily pressures wouldn't exist.
'oh I better get back home to...'
Sleepovers exist-fair enough, but there would always be the other place for somebody else. Time to ourselves, guaranteed. The essence to essentially please ourself. Decide for ourselves. To have the opportunity to create a network with another person, across a measurement of distance-if you imagine how strong that relationship would be to make it work, is quite a beautiful thing. The image of freedom comes to mind. Im curious what image may come to you...
There's been a little slog.
So no blog for quite a few days. I suppose I felt no urge to write, in risk of exhausting the point. But of course, If you don't write, the point will never come across. I had little to write except which has already been said. I believe there is no need to force things if it just doesn't feel right. Lets enlighten and share what is already out there for us to discover, and add to it ourselves.
This article is the best piece I have read today so far, and the below quote made my day:
'At 21, you can be single even if you are having a relationship with someone. You don't have to decide right away that this is an exclusive relationship...Be honest with each other. Be frank. Share what you are afraid to share. Be fearless. It's your future. It's your world.'
We all make choices. Deep down we know what we want, and don't want most of the time. We should avoid getting ourselves into vulnerable positions where we feel our happiness is jeopardised for somebody else's. If you are honest with yourself and with the people involved in your life, who knows, you may achieve the lifestyle you desire and be able to involve those you find interesting too. If you really don't want to do something, then don't. So many of us feel guilt towards our behaviour, our desires- though most of the time the way we behave feels the norm to us-it becomes our instant instinct.
Quite regularly people rely on another persons response to justify their feelings, behaviour, responses to everyday situations. As if another persons opinion should even matter?! We behave how we do because it feels right to us. Of course we know what's regarded as right and wrong. I always say, unless it comes across with an intention to hurt someone, then you aren't wrong for feeling and behaving how you do. It's making the most out of those emotions with a positive reflection-learn from them.
A conversation, piece of writing, even a sentence or a few key words can infuse you with encouragement.
Savour
Embrace
Flourish
Wednesday 9 February 2011
Smile like you mean it
A constant reminder. We all need one, whether we like it or not. It can take someone to say to us, go and have a break, that 30 minutes of solitude can lead us in wanting to face the world again. We do place way too much pressure on ourselves. Everyday.
Yawn.
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