Song of the day

Because this tune is so nice:

I heard, that your settled down.
That you, found a girl and your married now.
I heard that your dreams came true.
Guess she gave you things, I didn't give to you.

Old friend, why are you so shy?
It ain't like you to hold back or hide from the lie.

I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited.
But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it.
I'd hoped you'd see my face & that you'd be reminded,
That for me, it isn't over.

Nevermind, I'll find someone like you.
I wish nothing but the best, for you too.
Don't forget me, I beg, I remember you said:-
"Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead"
Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead, yeah.

You'd know, how the time flies.
Only yesterday, was the time of our lives.
We were born and raised in a summery haze.
Bound by the surprise of our glory days.

Adele Someone Like You lyrics found on http://www.directlyrics.com/adele-someone-like-you-lyrics.html

I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited,
But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it.
I'd hoped you'd see my face & that you'd be reminded,
That for me, it isn't over yet.

Nevermind, I'll find someone like you.
I wish nothing but the best for you too.
Don't forget me, I beg, I remember you said:-
"Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead", yay.

Nothing compares, no worries or cares.
Regret's and mistakes they're memories made.
Who would have known how bittersweet this would taste?

Nevermind, I'll find someone like you.
I wish nothing but the best for you too.
Don't forget me, I beg, I remembered you said:-
"Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead"

Nevermind, I'll find someone like you.
I wish nothing but the best for you too.
Don't forget me, I beg, I remembered you said:-
"Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead"
Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead, yay yeh yeah
Adele. Someone Like You.

How connected are we? Alone/Seperated.

'We think that we are separate from each other, and we are not. We think we are separate from the whole of life, and we are not. Tim is an integral part of the whole, and everyone and everything are also an integral part of the whole and, therefore, one with Tim. Separateness is the conceptual story we tell to make sense of life, the story of who we are, and when we get sucked into it we are not conscious of our deeper being. This is when we cause suffering to each other and our world. Waking up is the recognition that there is no other, that every person or situation is not separate from our essential nature.'

Of course you can accept this, appreciate this. But where is the balance? If we know there are notions of being 'alone', yet we are all still connected-where is the right in thinking we may be 'telling ourselves' something to make more meaning?

Isn't the balance knowing who we want in our lives, and not depending on people for what 'values' they provide in our lives? Knowing we can 'be' as our self, but accepting the importance for them to exist in our lives too?

Is this 'being' why many of us follow what is now seen as the convention, or expectation of humanism to find 'the one'?

Or am I just missing the point? I am sure most of the above I haven't really answered or explained well enough.


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ed-and-deb-shapiro/you-are-not-alone-here_b_847086.html

This article is worth reading for the comments as well.

Street hug happiness?

I think I would be a little thrown off. Though who are we quick to judge, of course we would receive the hug if it were from someone who we knew, but to receive a hug from a stranger? Well, I suppose it seems a less harmful or should I say, risky, way of human contact compared to those who enjoy say, a 'one night stand'. Who are we to refuse the embrace from someone unknown, when there is more danger in spending the night with someone quite unfamiliar?


Don't you think it's funny when our animalistic instincts over ride our affectionate ones too?


'"Action for Happiness is based on the principle that kindness breeds happiness. It encourages people to perform small acts of generosity – from hugging to holding open a door, saying sorry or giving up a seat on the bus.


The group says it already has more than 4,000 members from 60 countries, and hopes millions of "happiness activists" will march forth to spread goodwill around the world.


"It's a movement for radical cultural change, away from a culture based mainly on self interest to one based mainly on promoting the happiness of others," Layard said.


The group's launch in a London conference venue resembled a festival of positivity, attended by throngs of chatting people and representatives of groups ranging from the Happy City Initiative to marriage counseling service Relate.


Inside, attendees held a moment of mass meditation. Outside, a group of "guerrilla huggers" dispensed physical contact to surprised but mostly welcoming passers-by.


Many of those involved think they know the reason for unhappiness – in our hyper-connected world, many of us are starved of human contact.


"We don't have enough touch in every day life anymore," said Majella Greene, 43, a graduate psychology student and one of the guerrilla huggers. "Young people and people who work remotely don't have enough contact with other people."


Her group sets out to remedy that by sweeping down on busy urban locations and offering hugs to office workers and lunch-hour shoppers. While some rush past – "I'm anti-hug," says one man – many stop for a quick embrace.


"It's easy to be cynical about it, but why not?" said James Cowan, 29, a marketing worker. "It puts a smile on people's faces."'

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/04/12/action-for-happiness-uk_n_848052.html

Body perspective

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/galia-slayen/the-scary-reality-of-a-re_b_845239.html?ncid=txtlnkushuff00000002

Marriage

Recently, I could really really see why people get married. Marriage I suppose is a way of someone saying, I really am going to stick around. How odd. Like, why would we doubt that anyways. How silly?! I could really understand the commitment that came with it and why people would want that. Because It does represent how strong love is. Wow this feels really mental writing that I understood marriage. But don't get me wrong, I may think that, but of course at the end of the day it is all just really a symbol. Some people like symbols, some don't. But the symbol isn't about status. It is an expression. We make our own rules. I think most married people forget they can too.

Perhaps that is why people get divorced so often, or marriage doesn't quite work out. Is that why most freak out and believe marriage isn't for them-because we forget to make our own rules within the relationship? After all, isn't it the individual desires from one, the perspectives and view points from another which set us apart, and bring us together?

Maybe, we forget what type of relationship we can potentially set up for ourselves. At the end of the day, you could say there is no harm in establishing something new, if those involved know where they stand-people usually find something isn't right for them by doing so, or imagining so, or having feelings which clash with their natural instinct in feeling for someone. I suppose we will only know by trying, and of course if it doesn't agree with us-there is no harm in accepting that too. I am sure that for those involved, they will understand and accept differences between the ideal type of set up for one person, and those for another as well.

Quality of life

'Here is one way you can begin to make changes. Make a list of the things you are most unhappy about in your life. Here, why don't you do that now? Just make a list of the things in your life you are most unhappy about, and pick the one thing you would most like to change. I wonder what that would be. Would it be your job situation? Or perhaps your unstable finances? Your mortgage? The condition of your house? The unresolved questions with your partner?

Look at the things that are bothering you the most, and ask which ones you can change today, or this week. You may not like your job, but it takes time to change jobs. However, there may be certain aspects of your job that you can change, like your environment -- your regular chair, vehicle or work area -- as well as your commute, what you eat while at work, whom you eat with and the quality of your relationships with other people at work.

Your mortgage is another thing that would take time and effort to change. But you may be able to improve your house with paint or a new gardening project, so that while you are in it you are happier. Look for tangible changes that are relatively easy and inexpensive.

If your health is bad, you might take some simple steps to start improving it. You could exercise with an exercise group, or begin walking regularly, and try eating some new foods that make you feel a little better, and get a checkup to see if your nutrition is adequate and if any medications you are taking can be altered to make you feel better.

These are the kinds of changes I suggest you make. They are incremental changes that may not bring immediate rewards, but will slowly improve the quality of your life.
In making small changes, we also learn to pay attention to more subtle things, and this in itself can be an improvement.

These are things you can do.
For the time being, change what you can change, and let the rest be.'

http://www.salon.com/life/since_you_asked/2011/03/28/boyfriend_from_prison/index.html

Bruised Brain Theory

Taking time out really helps. And also what does really help is when others remind us of what has happened in our lives, to have shaped us as one self. It is good to be reminded that, what one person considers they have 'coped' with, or may see it as something that 'hasn't affected them', the way they have handled those situations-may have killed another.

And therefore I will in my own words call what can only be imagined as 'The Bruised Brain Theory'-we forget that whatever happens to us in life, it does affect us, though at the time or after we may not consider it to. What we experience shapes us. It can knock us off our feet and shake us up, a bit like when something quickly happens and it takes you out of your place. The nearest thing I could compare it to is perhaps an accident, lets say, a bike accident, or when you fall over. You become shaken up by a rush of adrenaline. We frequently forget that our bodies act like machines, and as much as there is the subconcious-we flow by a system of chemicals in affecting how we respond. I suppose what I am saying is, when stressful or traumatic problems may arise, the image comes to mind of a bruised brain. Even though after the sitation has taken place, we forget that we do become overwhelmed by certain events in our lives. And those events are essentially damaging-lets say, brain trauma. A bruised brain will always be triggered by anything which can link to those particular unfortunate moments. It would be within this moment whether it be yourself or another individual you know-accept the reminder that it may be time to slow down, time to take a moment, time to accept, grieve, be and reflect upon what was and what is now.

It all might put things into a little perspective for you.