Sounds, Socialising and Speed Dating

This sounds like fun, literally! On Sunday 10th July I hope to attend a social event involving the sharing of music playlists over beer, cake and of course the best part-meeting new people! Here is the organisers website. Also, more links involving their blogs (charity based bakers) and The Note Well Website which seems like it is still in development.

A relationship with entrapment

Personally, I don't quite understand when people are together yet when asked about the relationship-they don't seem happy! Frustration lies in how long can you keep something up if you aren't happy? I wonder whether it is a question of love, its strength gives you the will to stay with someone in hope it will get better; however is the other side a fear of going into a new unknown which keeps people in the same position?

Perhaps there is too much fear in making the decision and not wanting to realise you have made a mistake. Though wouldn't that only enhance the love? Sure there is a question of too little too late, but if the unhappiness without someone overwhelms our stubborn nature in being rejected... I think we are all aware of the better alternative than being without.

However, for those who really aren't happy and end their current relationship; wouldn't it be good to instigate a bit of confidence in them knowing their decision is right, because it felt like the right thing to do and that it is ok to be interested in other people?! Sometimes it can be a case of not wanting to commit, yet if you can be upfront about how you want to live; if someone is interested in you enough I am sure they would like to adapt to your decisions as well.

We meet people for a reason, one can only learn.

Columbia Road

Looks like I am going to have to explore more of London this weekend: Columbia Road promises to have many quirky shops to explore-this one will definitely satisfy my sweet tooth.

Made In Chelsea

Usually a sentence like 'I am ashamed to admit, my guilty TV choice is 'Made In Chelsea', yet for me I have no guilt. I really enjoy it!

I feel drawn to programmes like these because of their desire for its demographic to endure an idea of ones lifestyle. We all desire to learn what is different from our own. Increasingly throughout the series, FINALLY the editing has got fairly better and some of the shots are beautifully captured.

Getting passed the conventions and structured scenes of 'Chelsea', I would like to focus on the particular lifestyles and attitudes shown within the programme. Of course we have to take everything with a pinch of salt, hours of endless editing exists to construct a storyline and exchanged glances across the table to create drama. All bitchiness aside, I find it interesting to examine the general attitudes across each character. 

Without mentioning names, I feel that though these people may be seen as to 'have it easy', a large part of me thinks they have their priorities in the right place. Their current day to day generally seems based on sourcing pleasure. They seek when to have the next best social event or together occasion. They thrive from being around others and enjoying themselves. Sure, we all assume that the rich are delusional towards what 'living' really is, though deep down we know that if there were a choice for ourselves-as if we would turn down the lavish lifestyle. 

To have a piece of 'what shall I do today, because I can', instead of 'what shall we do in two weeks because we have to save'...I am glad to see these people enjoying themselves and making the most of what they have got. If we saw people of the such moaning all the time (all personal dramas aside) and not going out at all-I am sure we would hold grudges about the programme even more!

London Bridge Girls

Apologies for the lack of posting today, the day has been somewhat 'wednesday-ish'. Though it's far from the middle of the week slump, I think one has had so many words to choose from.

On my walk home for the first time, my eyes met with the same girl I kind of look for every morning. We pass roughly just on London Bridge or just after it as you reach into Monument. I think it was her style of fashion that caught me eye. Not the most unique sense of style, though her hair become the most unique thing. Appearances aside, It got me thinking about regular occurrences we have with people every day; whether it's our daily commute, to get our coffee, our lunch at the supermarket or picking out our clothes at the nearest shop. I think I see these people more often than those I would call my friends.

Whether this has come from engaging a little bit better with the guys next door that make my coffee, or having worked as front of house receptionist for around 7 months now (wow time flies); I can't help but think shouldn't we make a little more effort in engaging with the people we walk past regularly as well? On my most recent trip to Wales, walking down the canal the certainty in people to just say 'hello' to a stranger surprised me again. Their interaction with 'strangers' was so natural. Whether it's living in London itself, because I haven't really experienced much animosity with passers by, I think based on the population of people, passing bodies become flashes and that is all. We loose their face. So what if I joined walking with some of those I pass everyday and said hello? What if I invited them out for a drink?...Would I be seen as crazy, or a little over eager?! 

I think I have a fascination in learning about people anyways, their character, the things that tick them off. I think it's some sort of beauty in life. There is a weird simplicity about me that can be satisfied with so little yet want so much at the same time. It's an odd battle because sometimes when I get chances to delve with people, I can get frustrated and bored. Whether it's a short attention span or disability to concentrate and become distracted sometimes-I think one should remind to be more patient with people. So if someone came up to me whilst walking to work, and said hello, how would I react?!

Initially, well if it's a guy I think it now has been built into most women (only recently for my naive self) that most of the time when a guy talks to you it's because he is attracted to you in some way. I hate this notion and still battle against it, I want to prove a point; my own urges to talk to women in just wanting to make friends, in talking to guys because I want to make friends ( I have grown up with a good amount of purely male friends my whole life). Are we now restricted to 'organised' and structured social situations as 'adults', to be allowed and for it to be acceptable to converse? I begin to understand how things may get 'harder' as we get older, yet we are setting up these restrictions ourselves. We become less patient and more unwilling to let people into our crafted and formed worlds. Are new faces worth the hassle?

It feels like a completely cut off approach to civilisation. As children, we play in a park and talk to others all the time, just because! I rarely hear a story these days were people meet, out of the blue. I'm hoping we haven't got our guards and wariness up, too much that it is unhealthy. I don't want there to always be some sort of alternative motive. Usually we hear tales of how people meet because there is an attraction linked:past date, work related function, friend of a friend. One day I would like to hear a story about how two people met, just because they got caught up in conversation about learning with one another, about who each other are!

A child called 'Pie' and another named 'Like'

Facebook is inspirational for all... In reading about changing the law to allow children under 13 to use social networking sites, restrictions apply because of cyber-bullying concerns (and assurably peadophile scares as well, not sure why they haven't mentioned that yet), I have also come across the website inspiring some for the names of their children. Everyday Facebook never fails to impress me on its ability to influence and connect the world.

For me personally it also, through a friend's profile picture and in recognising the kitchen tiles, allowed me to see who now rents my old house. Coincidence!

Socially awkward

Most probably wouldn't think this, so it is quite amusing to write this, forever am I impressed by self-reflection and piecing everything back together again. Perhaps May is the time of the year for me of flashbacks and puzzle pieces nearing a strange infinite completion...

I now realise how socially awkward I have been. Of course everyday fluctuates for people depending on mood and whether you do just want to sit and observe, or to chat amongst new faces and familiar ones. However, only now do I realise times in the past were I could have made better use of situations-and why I handled them in the way I did then.

My brain feels like a constant 'cogg' which keeps spinning, and finds ways though hard to make it stop, or at least slow down! I think now the realisation comes from engaging with new people, and getting to know others a bit better too. I find the best example to give is when people dance, whether it's bad music-understandably if it's not to ones taste then your body will naturally find it hard to give in to the music. However, when it comes to a sobering factor where dancing just doesn't seem to work, thankfully for me this notion has disappeared. For those that may not find it as natural to, (without trying to sound patronising) let go, for me personally I liked to surround myself with those that did. It kind of established that it was ok to dance and move, if no-one was looking at my friends weird, then why would they look at me too?

I find the best way to see social situations are, most of the time the people you meet won't remember you tomorrow, next week or in a months time e.t.c. If one were to visit a club and see those dancing, we have all done it and thought wow, they look funny, silly, good, bad, e.t.c Yet do we really remember their faces and who they are next week, unless a poignant connection with them has been made?!

In socialising I like to apply this theory to mind, because within this idea inhibitions tend to be forgotten about. In an ideal world we all would think like this of course, everyday we tend to battle with our natural reactions into whether to go for it, or not. It makes me smile when we get to 'certain places' as we call them, that place of comfortable, with people for what we talk about, and don't talk about. Most of the time it is all linked to fear in unwanting to be judged, the other side is also chosing what one wishes to discuss because sometimes when a particular topic is brought up, it becomes more about the other person listening and not knowing what to say-or is it one protecting self and not wanting pity or the unwanted response?!

This is where I find socialing very interesting these days and sometimes I like to see it as a sort of game, or well perhaps a constant surprise. My job is all about representing and being the face value of companies. If I look, say something, bad, do something wrong it reflects on the people upstairs. In a sense, if you look at it one way-that is hilarious. To think one would judge one person and hold it against many others!...Doesn't it all seem so silly! Because of the importance held on representation, not just in my role but with everyday situations too, when meeting new people I find one has built a certain awareness of knowing when is the right time to say something, and when is not. There are always different worlds to balance between in saying what you really want to one another, and knowing when to hold back.

To apply this to what could be said as my social development; I find now less fear in questioning whether I should say what I feel. With some situations and environments aside, deep down I couldn't walk away from an event having thought 'I could have said more'. I want to say what I think, regardless. Words end up falling out of my mouth anyways, but to do that and not worry afterwards, well lucky me. I feel my new challenge should be the actions I do instead. Whether it involves giving more of a hug then a smile to one, or whether it involves going with my instinct to dance when no-one else is, or to run about just because I can. Perhaps most would agree they would like to come away from a social situation and say, yeah...that was good, that was really good! I love how we all end up connecting.