'Brooks’s desire to articulate a universal feeling: that all of us are caught up in what he calls “the loneliness loop.” We yearn for “community”; we have “the urge to merge.” When two people are having an intense conversation, their breathing synchronizes; laughing to-gether creates a feeling of joy; soldiers drilling in unison experience a surge of power. What drives us, ultimately, is the need to be understood by others.'
http://www.thedailybeast.com/blogs-and-stories/2011-03-02/david-brooks-on-the-social-animal-interview/
Tuesday, 8 March 2011
Friday, 4 March 2011
Moments of appreciation
When you feel it, make use of it in any way possible which feels right to you. Even though the small smile you show really represents a big one you know you still have inside, let it grow when the moment is right for you. Take a moment to appreciate that you have found it again and want to show the world how it feels for you.
I love the 9-5.
I love the party.
I love the quiet.
I love the chaos, the anticipation, the moment when you have got there, the time of celebration all in uniting the fun.
Party means to wow, means to move, means to show.
Expression is amazing. It's all one big method of expression.
To wonder, flounce and remember everything that was, is, and what shall become. And with your instincts one will behave with how it will all may follow.
The smile is becoming more real now.
I love the 9-5.
I love the party.
I love the quiet.
I love the chaos, the anticipation, the moment when you have got there, the time of celebration all in uniting the fun.
Party means to wow, means to move, means to show.
Expression is amazing. It's all one big method of expression.
To wonder, flounce and remember everything that was, is, and what shall become. And with your instincts one will behave with how it will all may follow.
The smile is becoming more real now.
Thursday, 3 March 2011
Wednesday, 2 March 2011
A new kind of challenge
A new challenge has come across. A really big challenge. Big.
Bring it on. For it only confirms everything I feel and sense and live by one hundred times more.
Bring it on. For it only confirms everything I feel and sense and live by one hundred times more.
Tuesday, 1 March 2011
Solitude
An article perfect to summarise exactly, a way of being.
'The truth was, I was looking for a man to fill a big empty space within me. I had some unresolved issues from childhood, and a past breakup that had left my heart fractured. This rendered me emotionally unavailable to fully commit myself to another person out of fear of getting hurt again or losing myself in another relationship, as I'd done in the past. What I had failed to recognize in my four years of consistent dating and not finding a partner was that maybe there were some unconscious things going on inside of me that were preventing me from being open to accept love, support or, scariest of all, share intimacy with another.
It became apparent to me that I needed to learn to live with myself before I could expect anyone else to live with me. I needed to be solely in a relationship with me. And so I embarked on a mission to achieve solitude, and find the joy in being alone. I think many people confuse being alone with fear and sadness, but it truly can be a positive and constructive state. At the same time I was awakening to this fact, I started attending guided meditations where the mantra the teacher gave us to practice was a simple "let go." It seems so mundane, but "let go" became a daily ritual that I repeated to myself over and over, and sure enough I began cutting the cords of the relationships that were distracting me from peaceful solitude and giving me a false sense of security and self-worth. I started feeling a new kind of freedom by remaining loyal to myself.
I unearthed a lot of anger, hurt and resentment that I needed to let go of. I also had a lot of forgiveness to do on myself and others before I was ready to open myself to a healthy relationship. In my solitude, I felt like I was clearing old negative thoughts that were making my life difficult. I was also learning to have compassion for myself and getting clearer on who I was and what I really wanted from a future partner. To my surprise, with no dating I was actually starting to feel less lonely than I ever had before. My self-esteem increased dramatically.
There are people we've had in our lives for many years that are very hard to let go of. They keep us in the destructive patterns that have been familiar to us our whole lives and activate emotions in us that very few others can. When this is what we've always known, severing these ties can be a real challenge. What got me through these difficult moments was a support system of friends, and knowing that if I complete the process of letting go, I could one day move on with openness to a new person, and have the healthy relationship that I desire.
Being in solitude rather than loneliness is a choice, and we are ultimately in charge of our minds. I believe that the freedom found in solitude will support love, and the more free space I clear in my heart, the more possibility I have for love in my life.'
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/erin-henry/the-joy-of-solitude_b_826649.html
'The truth was, I was looking for a man to fill a big empty space within me. I had some unresolved issues from childhood, and a past breakup that had left my heart fractured. This rendered me emotionally unavailable to fully commit myself to another person out of fear of getting hurt again or losing myself in another relationship, as I'd done in the past. What I had failed to recognize in my four years of consistent dating and not finding a partner was that maybe there were some unconscious things going on inside of me that were preventing me from being open to accept love, support or, scariest of all, share intimacy with another.
It became apparent to me that I needed to learn to live with myself before I could expect anyone else to live with me. I needed to be solely in a relationship with me. And so I embarked on a mission to achieve solitude, and find the joy in being alone. I think many people confuse being alone with fear and sadness, but it truly can be a positive and constructive state. At the same time I was awakening to this fact, I started attending guided meditations where the mantra the teacher gave us to practice was a simple "let go." It seems so mundane, but "let go" became a daily ritual that I repeated to myself over and over, and sure enough I began cutting the cords of the relationships that were distracting me from peaceful solitude and giving me a false sense of security and self-worth. I started feeling a new kind of freedom by remaining loyal to myself.
I unearthed a lot of anger, hurt and resentment that I needed to let go of. I also had a lot of forgiveness to do on myself and others before I was ready to open myself to a healthy relationship. In my solitude, I felt like I was clearing old negative thoughts that were making my life difficult. I was also learning to have compassion for myself and getting clearer on who I was and what I really wanted from a future partner. To my surprise, with no dating I was actually starting to feel less lonely than I ever had before. My self-esteem increased dramatically.
There are people we've had in our lives for many years that are very hard to let go of. They keep us in the destructive patterns that have been familiar to us our whole lives and activate emotions in us that very few others can. When this is what we've always known, severing these ties can be a real challenge. What got me through these difficult moments was a support system of friends, and knowing that if I complete the process of letting go, I could one day move on with openness to a new person, and have the healthy relationship that I desire.
Being in solitude rather than loneliness is a choice, and we are ultimately in charge of our minds. I believe that the freedom found in solitude will support love, and the more free space I clear in my heart, the more possibility I have for love in my life.'
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/erin-henry/the-joy-of-solitude_b_826649.html
Philosophy
The funny thing about Philosophy is that it speaks of what we already know, yet it takes a large percentage of our lives to work out and really flow by. The more we read it over and over again we still cannot fully absorb it all until we have experienced the motions that let it (and allow it, without one having a choice) affect ourselves personally. And then it all fits in and it's like you become one with the world.
I'm not saying that anything has been written for us to follow but it's almost like once the realisation takes place the patterns emerge and coincide with what has been written and said.
Should it really be called Philosophy, how about calling it Perspective?
Would it make this world seem more accessible and less daunting to those who aren't so familiar.
It's awful to think we are all at a bottom level and everyone has to make their way up. Yet this image is also quite exciting. To think of the imagery of everyone essentially together placing themselves in the world and making their way to their wondrous place of what may be described as zen. My preference is 'being'. Though one must be alone to encounter, and not fear loneliness. Be comfortable as yourself. To confuse the elevation with other emotions or other cushions in life would make it a waste.
Everyone has a choice to take note. We all have our vibes. Make the choice in not being offended and use the energy to drive yourself forward.
There should be no guilt in working out who you are. And then there should be no guilt in knowing who you are, and talking about it. Feel no arrogance, only feel strength.
I'm not saying that anything has been written for us to follow but it's almost like once the realisation takes place the patterns emerge and coincide with what has been written and said.
Should it really be called Philosophy, how about calling it Perspective?
Would it make this world seem more accessible and less daunting to those who aren't so familiar.
It's awful to think we are all at a bottom level and everyone has to make their way up. Yet this image is also quite exciting. To think of the imagery of everyone essentially together placing themselves in the world and making their way to their wondrous place of what may be described as zen. My preference is 'being'. Though one must be alone to encounter, and not fear loneliness. Be comfortable as yourself. To confuse the elevation with other emotions or other cushions in life would make it a waste.
Everyone has a choice to take note. We all have our vibes. Make the choice in not being offended and use the energy to drive yourself forward.
There should be no guilt in working out who you are. And then there should be no guilt in knowing who you are, and talking about it. Feel no arrogance, only feel strength.
Examples
'If you do not believe that they should suffer, then why do you reserve the right to suffer yourself? Are you not an example to others? Do you not seek to live as you think others should live? So, if not for yourself, then as an example to others: Be at peace with the body you were born with. Be at peace with your own nature. Find your own way, let it make you happy, and in finding your own way inspire others.
Lead by being who you are.'
http://www.salon.com/entertainment/movies/sports/index.html?story=/mwt/col/tenn/2011/02/27/middle_of_the_pack
Lead by being who you are.'
http://www.salon.com/entertainment/movies/sports/index.html?story=/mwt/col/tenn/2011/02/27/middle_of_the_pack
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